Any parent of a teenager can tell you that raising a teen is not easy. If you have a teen daughter, this can be even truer. Raising a teen girl is tough on any parent.
There are so many things that you and your daughter might go through and it can be very challenging. However, if you take time to be with your daughter and to keep the lines of communication open, you can help her grow into a successful, happy woman.
Teen girls are more likely than boys to suffer from depression and negative peer pressure. Most girls tend to strive harder for acceptance among their peers, especially during the teenage years and they may drift away from their parents more and lean on influence from other teens and friends. It’s important that you stay involved in your teen daughter’s life and that you help her and guide her through these years.
1. Encourage communication. No matter what your teen is going through, it will help if you are there and if you have a good relationship with each other. Make time each day to ask her how she is doing and then really take the time to listen. Pay attention to her problems and take them seriously, even if they seem like teen girl chatter to you. It’s very important that you respect her and her feelings.
2. Avoid the “double-standard”. Many parents are harder on their teen daughters than they are on their sons. They mistakenly think that girls are weaker or have to be protected or they worry their daughters will get taken advantage of. The same rules that you have for your boys, you should have for your girls and vice versa.
3. Encourage Independence. This is the time when your daughter will want to spread her wings and try new things. You have to give her responsibility and independence. Give her an opportunity to show you how mature she can be and give her chances to take responsibility for her own actions, whether they be good or bad.
4. Inform her about Sex and her Body. It’s very important that you are open with your teen daughter about sex, boys, pregnancy and other issues related to this. Give her the facts, allow her to ask questions and be supportive. There are a lot of changes happening in her body right now and she needs someone she can trust to tell her the truth about these important issues.
5. Be a good role Model. Teen girls get many of their behaviors from their own mothers. Girls with problems with depression, drugs and alcohol, low self esteem, eating disorders and related issues often learned these behaviors from their own mothers. Try hard to be a good example to your daughter of what a happy, healthy woman should be.
These are just some basic guidelines to follow for raising your teen daughter. Remember that love and patience are very important and also keep in mind that if you fear there may be a problem, get her help right away. Don’t let it fester and go unnoticed until it becomes worse.